Respect-and-Care Culture Baseline
Make equal respect for every role the non-negotiable base of culture.
- Difficulty
- Moderate
- Time to result
- ~ongoing to results
- Steps
- 5
- Confidence
- 97%
Fernandes presents respect as a non-negotiable foundation rather than a benefit reserved for teammates or senior staff. His mechanism is behavioural consistency: greet, acknowledge, and care for the cleaners, chefs, stewards, physios, reception staff, players, and executives as people whose different roles all contribute to the environment. Repeated equal treatment communicates belonging, while overlooking support work creates a place where care is absent and eventually noticeable. Fernandes links this standard to his mother's work cleaning houses and applies it at home by requiring his children to ask respectfully and do tasks they can do themselves. The framework concerns interpersonal culture, not a claim that courtesy fixes every organisational problem. Respectful conduct must accompany fair systems, boundaries, and accountability.
Origin
Fernandes says his mother's work cleaning houses shaped how he treats support staff. At Manchester United and at home, he uses consistent greetings, acknowledgement, and correction of disrespect to reinforce that different roles still deserve equal human regard.
Core principles
- 01Status does not determine whether a person deserves respect.
- 02Consistent greetings and care signal that every role belongs.
- 03Invisible support work still shapes the quality of the environment.
- 04Leaders make culture credible through repeated behaviour.
How to run it
- 1
See the whole system
List the visible and less visible roles that make the team or workplace function. Connect each role to the environment others experience.
Pro tip Walk through an ordinary day and note whose work prevents friction.
Watch out Do not reduce people to the service they provide.
- 2
Declare the baseline
Make respectful speech and conduct non-negotiable across roles. Explain what the standard looks like in routine interactions.
Pro tip Use observable behaviours such as greeting, asking rather than ordering, and acknowledging work.
Watch out A slogan without leader behaviour will weaken trust.
- 3
Model equal regard
Use the same basic warmth and attention regardless of status. Fernandes describes greeting staff in the same spirit as teammates.
Pro tip Notice whether your behaviour changes when no senior person is watching.
Watch out Equal regard does not mean every role has identical authority.
- 4
Correct small violations
Intervene when someone speaks dismissively, issues an unnecessary order, or treats support work as beneath notice. Show the respectful alternative.
Pro tip Correct the behaviour close to the moment and explain the standard.
Watch out Do not humiliate someone while claiming to teach respect.
- 5
Back courtesy with systems
Check whether policies, workload, pay, safety, and access reflect the respect expressed interpersonally. Resolve contradictions rather than hiding them behind politeness.
Pro tip Ask people in lower-status roles where the stated standard fails in practice.
Watch out Personal warmth cannot compensate for unfair conditions.
In the wild
Fernandes says he greets cleaners, reception staff, stewards, chefs, physios, and teammates consistently. He argues that acknowledging each person helps them feel involved in an environment their work materially shapes.
→ Respect becomes an everyday cultural signal rather than a statement reserved for formal occasions.
Fernandes tells his children not to command the person who works in their home. They must ask respectfully for help, and if they can complete a task themselves, she should show them how rather than automatically do it for them.
→ The household standard combines respectful requests with personal responsibility.
Common mistakes
Confusing equal regard with equal roles
Fernandes distinguishes the human standard from the different responsibilities people hold.
Performing respect upward only
The framework is tested most clearly in interactions with people who have less status or power.
Replacing fairness with politeness
Courtesy does not remove the need for fair systems and working conditions.
Is it for you?
Best for
Leaders building a team culture across visibly different roles and levels of authority.
Not ideal for
Using friendliness as a substitute for fair pay, safe conditions, accountability, or resolving structural mistreatment.
From the transcript
“the respect for people”
“If I say good morning to these ones, I say good morning to this ones”
“they will feel part of it”
From the episode
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