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12 December 2024

MrBallen (Former Navy SEAL): I Wasn't Sleeping, I Became A Raging Alcoholic! I Was Disowned By The SEALS! This Will Turn Your Life Around In 2025!

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Hot Take· 1

Hot Take1:59:00

The Podcast Future MrBallen Wants to Preserve

Asked about the future of new media, MrBallen says he values podcasting's relatively open entry and the ability of shows to grow through audience response rather than being created entirely by large companies. He acknowledges that corporate podcasts exist, but hopes the medium retains its range, authenticity, and room for unexpected independent successes.

  • Anyone can start a podcast.
  • He believes many successful shows first establish an audience before large companies arrive.
  • The medium supports unusually broad subject matter.
  • His meritocracy description is an opinion, not a measured industry finding.

it's this great meritocracy of content

MrBallen · 1:59:30

it's like the beautiful product of just like human like authenticity and willingness to talk about stuff

MrBallen · 2:00:00
#podcasting#new media#independence

Explainer· 1

Explainer23:00

Why an Elite Résumé Did Not Guarantee SEAL Training Success

MrBallen says some candidates with exceptional athletic résumés left training quickly despite having the physical ability. His interpretation is that sustained discomfort required an internal reason to stay, while status, others' expectations, or prior achievement could be insufficient. He presents this as a generalization with exceptions, not a universal rule.

  • Instructors deliberately disregarded candidates' previous status.
  • The course was too long to endure through short-term effort alone.
  • MrBallen says his own motive was proving to himself that he could achieve a hard goal.
  • Graduates did not conform to one obvious physical profile.

you need to have something to hold on to in your brain that overrides the discomfort

MrBallen · 25:30
#motivation#navy seals#perseverance

Story· 6

Story12:00

His Most Public Failure in SEAL Training

During a CS-gas confidence exercise, MrBallen says his fight-or-flight response made him run while his classmates stayed in place. After being publicly condemned and humiliated, he decided not to excuse the failure and instead tried to rebuild trust through how he behaved for the rest of training.

  • He describes the reaction as immediate rather than deliberative.
  • The failure damaged his reputation near the end of training.
  • He chose to accept the imposed humiliation and continue showing up.
  • Bartlett frames the response to a mistake as a second opportunity.

own the fact that you did that don't make excuses for it

MrBallen · 14:30

if you make a mistake you get the second opportunity which is how you respond to the mistake you made

Steven Bartlett · 15:00
#failure#navy seals#trust
Story37:30

The Unchecked Box He Saw While Bleeding in Afghanistan

MrBallen recounts being wounded by a grenade during a 2014 firefight and believing he might die. He says one dominant regret was that he and his wife had postponed starting a family; after he survived and returned home, they acted on that desire.

  • He says he was unable to pull tourniquets from his kit as his vision faded.
  • He believed he faced death from blood loss or enemy fire.
  • The experience clarified that having children mattered deeply to him.
  • He and his wife started a family after his return.

I had this really acute sadness that I hadn't started a family yet

MrBallen · 38:30
#afghanistan#family#regret
Story44:30

Why He Deleted the Navy SEAL Content That Was Gaining Traction

After leaving the military, MrBallen increasingly used his SEAL identity in social-media content. He says former teammates viewed that as exploiting a collective identity for personal gain, sent painful messages, and shunned him in public. He concluded that no level of success justified the damage and removed almost all of the material.

  • He distinguishes disclosing secrets from using the SEAL identity for personal promotion.
  • Criticism from people who knew him felt different from anonymous internet hate.
  • He says he understood the line and knew when he had crossed it.
  • Deleting the content preserved his interest in creating but forced a new subject.

being a seal is not something that's yours

MrBallen · 45:00

there is no amount of success that I could possibly achieve doing the Navy SEAL content stuff that would be worth what I'm going through

MrBallen · 50:00
#identity#navy seals#social media
Story1:16:00

When Five Videos a Week Consumed His Health and Family Time

MrBallen says his early production pace required roughly 26 hours per video and displaced sleep, health, and family life. He describes heavy drinking and weight gain during that period, then says he deliberately exchanged some output for more time with his wife and children. These are his personal reports, not general medical conclusions about content creation.

  • He was shooting and editing long videos largely by himself.
  • He links the pace to lost sleep, heavy alcohol use, and weight gain in his own life.
  • He says the workload also affected his relationship with his wife and children.
  • Reducing output became a deliberate family trade-off.

I really wasn't sleeping I became like a raging alcoholic I became like horribly overweight

MrBallen · 1:17:00

I'm going to do less content for more time with my family

MrBallen · 1:17:30
#burnout#family#creator economy
Story1:27:00

How He Describes the Mental Aftermath of Military Service

MrBallen says he did not meaningfully process his 2014 near-death experience before deploying again and later struggled severely while stationed in Peru. After medical retirement, he reports persistent anger and family strain; he says therapy helped him discuss his service, reconsider his perspective, and begin forgiving himself. The segment reflects his experience and interpretation rather than medical advice.

  • He says he initially treated required post-deployment therapy as a hurdle to clear.
  • He describes depression, recurring dreams, and feeling close to a mental collapse in Peru.
  • After retirement, anger and tension affected his wife and children.
  • He credits open discussion in therapy with helping him gain perspective.

it was through therapy that I realized I had some very deep-seated issues with myself

MrBallen · 1:33:00

therapy is not meant to make you forget stuff it's to give you perspective that you didn't have

MrBallen · 1:33:30
#mental health#military#therapy
Story1:43:00

The Belief About His Father That Lasted for Years

MrBallen says he interpreted his father's concern about joining the Navy as proof that his father did not believe in him. That belief fueled him during SEAL training but also contributed to sparse contact for years. After therapy and direct conversations, he says they concluded his father had been worried for his son, and they reconnected.

  • His father saw serious downside whether he passed or failed SEAL selection.
  • MrBallen interpreted that concern as disbelief.
  • The resentment became motivation but damaged their relationship.
  • Direct discussion later changed his understanding of the conflict.

no my dad just literally was worried about his son

MrBallen · 1:46:30
#fatherhood#resentment#reconciliation

Takeaway· 1

Takeaway1:38:30

Why He Says Private Struggles Need Words

MrBallen describes recurring thoughts that trigger immediate avoidance as personal 'demons' and says suppression has not resolved his own. He reports that speaking privately with a neutral therapist lets him hear and examine thoughts he finds painful or embarrassing. Bartlett adds that concealed struggles can surface indirectly and cause partners to misunderstand behavior; both present disclosure as something to test carefully, not an instant cure.

  • MrBallen identifies avoidance of recurring thoughts as a sign that an issue needs attention.
  • He says voicing highly personal material has been cathartic for him.
  • Bartlett says concealed distress affected his mood, health, habits, and relationships.
  • They advocate taking a first step in an appropriate private setting rather than unloading indiscriminately.

it's cathartic to talk about it with a therapist

MrBallen · 1:40:00

when I don't State them especially in the context of a relationship is you live misunderstood

MrBallen · 1:51:00
#therapy#relationships#vulnerability